tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17370802.post8106548057271679980..comments2023-04-28T08:52:49.452-07:00Comments on On the Path of Grace: MalaiseMargarethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18240529531921430800noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17370802.post-84561726944148537302011-01-13T20:54:46.447-07:002011-01-13T20:54:46.447-07:00thanks, Dave.... it's funny, but just after I ...thanks, Dave.... it's funny, but just after I posted and re-read what I'd written, I thought that a big part of this for me is the fact that if I can't do it perfectly, I don't want to do it. Perfectionism, as you said. It's hard to de-program oneself!<br /><br />And what goes around comes around... Madeleine is showing the same tendency- if something is hard, she doens't want to try it. She won't play with toys, like shape-sorters, that aren't easy for her to do. She asks for help right away or ignores them. So now I get to figure out how to correct this in me, and in her too. :-)Margarethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18240529531921430800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17370802.post-85645147772168496182011-01-12T00:29:25.077-07:002011-01-12T00:29:25.077-07:00I know the feeling... I think. It happens to me m...I know the feeling... I think. It happens to me more often than I think I'd like to admit. It happens most to me on those days when my list of things I "must" get done is longer than average, when things are on my mind that I want to accomplish, but require resources, time, or just money that I don't have. <br /><br />But I think I found the root of what drives that problem for me. Expectations. I expect too much of myself too soon. Projects look intimidating not because they are, but because my expectations of how I get it done are too high. I want to do X, but feel like I can't do X because I can't do it well enough soon enough. I don't leave myself room for small steps, room to learn. <br /><br />Oh. And I found a name for these expectations of myself that demand discouraging and demotivating levels of performance: perfectionism.<br /><br />It's just my story, but maybe somehow that helps.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17451335138825228674noreply@blogger.com